The characteristics of infant sleep, although there are certain rules to follow and empirical data to help, there are always some reasons that we don't know, which may lead to the occurrence of some situations.

In fact, a small detail can solve a child's sleep problem. Sometimes these details are just a small living habit that has not been noticed before.

Inexplicable influencing factors

In sleep counseling, there is a situation that many babies with relatively stable sleep will cry suddenly and inexplicably, or cry easily at certain fixed times, which makes adults completely confused.

Parents may not be able to find the problem even if they think about it carefully. Instead, we talked about some neglected influencing factors through "chat". Sometimes, these factors are very strange, but they become the turning point of the whole consultation process and even the change of children's sleep problems.

I will not mention some particularly common influencing factors here, such as: the influence of light, changes in the environment, changes in temperature, visits from family members, the brightness of cameras, etc.

Here are a few magical influencing factors:

  1. Mom's changing hairstyle: When the baby is accustomed to stroking your hair and falling asleep peacefully every day, you may never imagine that you permed your curly hair for beauty and it becomes the beginning of the child's sleep and crying, don't hesitate, change your hairstyle back.

In the same way, sometimes changing the sheets, changing the circumference of the bed, or even changing the position of the cot may cause the child's originally stable sleep or better sleep to become inexplicably irritable and crying.

  1. Foods that scald the mouth: A baby cries every day before going to bed, which makes it difficult to coax before nightfall. I asked the mother of the child how many degrees of water did you flush the milk, and then the next day, the mother cooled the water for the milk by a few degrees. When breastfeeding, the baby does not cry, and it is easier to fall into the night.
  1. Unpleasant strangers: There is such a case, the baby goes out for a walk every day at basically the same time, although not necessarily every day, but as long as he goes out, he will cry at night. I have always wondered if the child is too tired to go out for a walk or some other reason. Later, it was found that every time the baby went out at the same time, he would meet an uncle in the community walking his grandson, and they would always greet and tease each other when they met. The next day, if this uncle was bypassed when walking around, the situation of the child crying at night would be improved.

In the same way, it could be a dog, a building, a piece of music, who knows?

There's a lot more to this kind of weirdness in the consultation process. Of course, the more peculiar details are rare. What I want to say here is to consciously look for patterns and try a little change.

Sometimes the regular pattern ​and the truth are in front of you, but they are ignored by the daily life you are used to. It is better to talk to a third party, and maybe you will suddenly become enlightened.

Impatient bedtime routine

No matter what sleep it is, getting your baby to calm down is the key to falling asleep normally.

Especially when taking the child out for a walk, it is very important for sleep to go home at least 20-30 minutes early to calm the child's mood and restore body temperature.

Some parents take their children out without the concept of time control at all. When the child comes back close to sleep time, although he is sleepy, he cannot be coaxed to sleep. Finally, he had to calm down for a while before going back to sleep. However, the sleep duration may also be a cycle, and if it is missed, it will be continuously adjusted and delayed.

The child's sleep time is important, but calmness before bed is more important.

For example, just about to go to bed, the child pulls the poop, and after washing, the parent immediately goes back and hugs it twice and puts it down. This idea is very good, it shows that the parent attaches great importance to the child's sleep, but please don't panic. After washing, you can let the child calm down in the living room for 5 minutes, then go back to the sleeping environment and hold it upright for a while, a little later is not a problem.

Reluctant to wake up the child

If you never wake your baby, it's either a very regular sleep or no regular sleep at all.

There are always a lot of uncertain things and various arrangements in life. If you want to keep your child’s routine in good order, waking up your baby to arrange life is bound to be a basic operation that you will definitely encounter.

This basic operation includes the control of the latest wake-up time in the morning when there is a problem with sleep at night; it includes the requirements for the wake-up time of the second sleep in order to ensure that the third sleep goes smoothly; it includes the guarantee of the end time of the last sleep during the day to ensure the consistency of the night time.

We often see such stories in cases: parents are required to wake up no later than noon, but they sleep for an extra 10 minutes because they are reluctant to wake the baby. These 10 minutes seem to be nothing.

But it caused a lot of pressure to the last sleep, and as a result, there was a problem with coaxing to sleep, and the result was either a failure of the third sleep, or only a very short third sleep, or it is delayed to sleep at night and even affects the regularity of sleeping at night.

So don't let your child sleep just because you feel it's too bad to wake him up. Sleeping in a planned way, waking up in a planned way, and adjusting flexibly will not force yourself into a dead end, because those 10 minutes of poorness will cause the child to cry more, which is not worth it.